Dear Cousin Nndi Tshikosi

Dear Nnditsheni Tshikosi,

You’re 23 now, no longer a baby. That’s weird, it makes me feel old, and I don’t like it.

It is 11:02PM 10 March 2015 and I can’t sleep, I am thinking about you and how you’ve grown up when I wasn’t looking. I was looking at you this past weekend when you came to visit, and I realized that you are no longer just my little Cousin (mulugu, like Gran would call you) you are a woman, and though you don’t see it, in many ways you already are one. We’re very different, you and I. You are a happier, kinder soul than I was at 23. You’re also really smart, congratulations on getting your degree on record time (well almost).

But there are some things I’ve learned, from surviving in my young adult years that I want to share with you. So, in the spirit of unsolicited ‘sisterly’ advice, here’s what I want you to know based on my own experiences as well others peoples experiences.

On Your Beauty:

Society is ugly. According to them you will never be thin enough, toned enough, pretty enough, or perfect enough. The truth? YOU ARE ENOUGH. Right now, exactly as you are. Your beautiful curves, your juicy lips, your brown skin; these things make  YOU, and YOU will always be enough.

I LOVE your Lips. Lips are one of your signatures. Learn to rock them. You have perfect lips that work, they will one day give your husband angel kisses and a bright beautiful smile. They work for Angelina Jolie (even all Kardashians are getting fake ones, thanks to lip injections)and now they work for you. Your Brown skin is perfect. You already win at life. You are a stunning, elegant beauty naturally. Be adventurous and wild(not too wild) and wear what you love, but always be you.

On Boys:

So much of this time in your life is self-discovery and learning through trial and error. This is your journey and no one can tell you how to navigate it, but I hope that what I’m about to say will merit a tiny space in your rapidly increasing knowledge base and that you will think back on it from time to time and it will help you choose better than others before you. Boys can make you feel the best you’ve ever felt, and the worst. They can make you laugh until your abs hurt, and they can make you cry so hard you feel as though you’ll never get over it. I promise you that in your life you will experience a little of both (if you ever need me to share tears of any kind, or make a guy disappear, I’m here). The most important thing is that you nurture your sense of humor and your mind.

Don’t be afraid to be smart. Be friends with boys who are nice to you. Surround yourself with boys who are respectful to their moms, and not too mean to their sisters. And if they recognize you for your wit, your confidence, and your laugh more than just your stunning physical attributes, you’re laying the groundwork for some good stuff later on.

On how I’ll always love you:

Many people will have opinions and advice, but they didn’t Play Hide and seek with you, or watch kideo with you every day after school, or have to deal with you wearing my clothes on Guy Fawkes Day LOL. I know I stay far away, and I don’t always keep in touch, but you are my baby-cousin, and I love you fiercely. I am proud of the young woman you are becoming. If I lived closer, we would have this conversation over our red velvet cake and oros, but I thought a letter would be more fun.

Remember that God should always be first in your life, in all your ways involve him, he will never live nor forsake you.

I love you like a fat kid loves cake,

Cousin Khethi

Being 24 doesn’t feel all that wonderful ......

Well, I guess the big event of this week is was turning 24.
When you’re young, every birthday seems incredibly important, in fact, even January 24^th, my half birthday seemed a very important date when I was younger and I still can’t help but notice when it comes around.
I’ve found that when I see some of my younger cousins I wrongly expect to be forgiven for getting the age a year or two wrong, there are few more offensive comments you can say to a seven year old than accusing them of being six.
This is of course because when you’re young, being a year older makes a significant difference to your outlook. It’s something about pride I suspect – maybe it’s a result of being forced to answer the question ‘How old are you now?’ by a class of signing classmates as your teacher wandered around your classroom handing out boxes of raisins you’d brought in to celebrate. For the record, yes genuinely, that was all we were allowed to bring into school by means of celebration for our birthdays.
So, why do I say all this? Well, because I’d always thought that post 18, one would get over the feeling of significant difference from year to year… but I haven’t.
It’s hit me this week how old 24 sounds. You’ve basically hit your mid twenties and it’s time to grow up. In my mind aged 23 it’s still kind of acceptable to be finding your feet, maybe in your last year at University… but 24, seriously get on with life.
Birthdays are in theory at least, happy occasions where we celebrate rights of passage that can now befall us. At 13 it meant you can start looking at boys in a different way, at 18 it means you can drive, at 21 it means you can drink(even thou u might have experimented back in high school already), and then of course you hit the 30,40,50,60,70 to mark decades of life.
If you’re looking for a birthday card which says ‘sorry to hear you’re…’ you’ll do well to find it, but if someone gives me one ending in ’24′ this week I think I m going to smile for at this moment in time, being 24 doesn’t feel all that wonderful – certainly nowhere near as much fun as being six… or was it seven? Who cares.

The are no rules in life besides the ones that we make for ourselves...

Our lives are full of laughter and full of tears. They can be hectic, involved, and demanding. One thing I know for sure, is our lives are short and for those brief precious moments on earth, our lives are our own. Since little girls we were governed by multiple sets of rules: always sit up straight, don’t play too rough, and don’t eat too much. As adult women, not only must we remember our childhood rules, but we learn that we mustn’t speak up too loudly in business meetings or text back a response too slowly for fear of offending someone. Countless rules dictate the clothes we should and should not wear, food we should and should not eat, and individuals we should and should not love.
I am sure we can all think of someone that followed all their rules but is not happy…

At 21, I believed I had to commit to a life-long career by 23, marry by 25, and have two children before 27. I feared that I would be punished with a lifetime of unhappiness for breaking them, yet as I turn 24 I feel like I have already started to brake some of these Rules, and have never felt happier or more at peace.

I discovered that,the are no rules in life besides the ones that we make for ourselves. Your short life on this earth remains your own. Stop and reflect about what your rules are and why they mean something to you. You may discover the dreams that live within you, don’t have to remain dreams forever.

The Best Ways to Define Your Waist

 Wrap Dress

The wrap dress is one of the most universally flattering garment in women’s clothing thanks to the the 70s. Not only is a wrap dress the ultimate garment in effortless ease, elegance and sophistication, it is also one of the most infallible piece for a woman’s body.

 Belts

Even if you think you lack curves, a belt will help to create the appearance of a waist and a shapely figure. Placing a belt over dresses or flowy breezy pieces like tunics will help to enhance your body by accentuating its smallest and thinnest area. Creating this definition is as simple as selecting the right belt for your body type. If you’re on the petite side, opt for a skinnier belt that’ll sit just under the bust line to create the look of a sleeker, longer torso. If you’re on the busty side, a big belt is in order for wear just slightly under the waistline to balance your proportions.his waist-centric dress wraps perfectly around the waist, hitting the smallest point on the body while defining the waist with a simple tied belt, making it one of the top easy ways to define your waist.

 Peplum

Peplums are the latest finely crafted trend that work as extensions on structured dresses and tops to take charge of the ultra-feminine fashion seen recently on the runway. With its elegant and flattering flare, the peplum flares out from the waistline immediately shrinking you at the point where the peplum starts and moves away from your body. For the best fit and flattering silhouette for your figure make sure your peplum duds hit at the smallest part of your middle to show off your waist and avoid unbalanced proportions.

Darted Jacket


Although jackets and blazers are at the helm of men’s fashion, a well-tailored jacket can work wonders for the feminine figure. For a jacket or blazer that’s specifically built for women, look for one with nipped waists, maximum darting and seaming to create a structured silhouette. The right blazer will polish off your look and add definition to your upper body.

Bottom Prints


To create visual interest in your outfit, prints are an excellent wardrobe addition that keeps your style fresh and trendy. Wearing a well fitted printed pant or pencil skirt works as a smart illusion to draw the eye in and direct it to the waistline making it look smaller. Prints often time create the illusion of volume so sticking to one print on the bottom paired with a neutral or basic shirt will help to maintain balance proportions and a sleek silhouette.



 Source :AllwomenStalk

ALL THINGS FASHION.....TAKING IT BACK TO THE 70s WITH Fendi"s RESORT 2013 COLLECTION...

Taking it back to the 70s for Fendi Resort 2013 Collection

 

Fendi has just unveiled their Resort 2013 collection and the stamp of the 1970s is clearly shown in the collection though with a twist,came across it while going through one of their blogs and loved it,
decided to share it on my blog since i havent blogged in a long time,hope you like it as much as i do *kisses* ;-)

Karl Lagerfield, the creative force behind Fendi (as well as Chanel) brought about the 1970′s feel through the designs that he incorporated in the collection. Most of the collection was really feminine with skirts and classic-shaped dresses. The twist for the collection comes in the form of accessories like the shoes and bags as well as the fringe incorporated in some pieces. The fringe was done impeccably thus giving the Fendi woman a modern feel despite originating from the 1970′s vibe.

One thing that is interesting in the collection is the color paletter utilized in the collection. Color blocking is clearly evident in the collection but the colors used where very vibrant like pink, yellow, and blue. The prints utilized were also vibrant as it is very eye-catching even from afar.

It is safe to say based on this collection that Karl Lagefield has never lost his touch when it comes to creating classic and modern fashion.

 

 

PS** Will be blogging more from now on,with more focus on fashion.

 

Khethi...

 

Four cool ways to rock your Jeans.

Hi People :-),havnt been here for two weeks and it seems like forever,but i see your comments and page views thank you for support *kisses*.

Moving along, with something thats so simple,we all have this in our cupboards........JEANS
Here are four cool ways to rock your hot jeans.......tell me which look you like......

Autumn/Winter 2012-13

Autumn/Winter 2012-13

Autunm/ Winter 1012/2013 at the london fashion week has just caught my eyes wow *deep breath* straight Off the catwalk there were plenty of real-life looks to and copy,infact i think all looks could work for me LOL,They look very stylish, fabulous and interesting these items can turn heads in these Jozi streets,check it out below and tell me which designer killed it for you.......



Elie Saab

Valentino

Louis Vuitton

Giambattista Valli

Haider Ackermann

Lanvin

Christian Dior

Chanel

Yves Saint Laurent

Pictures:vogue